How does one get their ex back? This is the question that has tortured and been asked by a LOT of people before you. For some reason relationships that were in fact solid and meant to last, just break and people in those relationships end up going their separate ways. But what if you can reverse the damage and get a second chance in this relationship, would you want to do it? I bet you also herd this story many times. Boy and girl meet and fall in love, they then break up for whatever silly reason and in the end patch things up because of some occurrence that got them back together? You can be this couple. And this occurrence can be something more than just an accident.

First it's very important to stay calm and cool during the whole break up experience. I know I’m asking a lot form you since your whole world is crashing down just about now, but if you manage to keep a cool head about it (and also keep your eyes on the prize); you'll end up getting it all back and in style.

Any form of panic you may be going through is perfectly normal. The big thing is NOT to display and let it show. When the break up takes place, you'll have a need to try and stop it or even beg your ex not to leave you, fight this urge. Remember to stay calm and tell your ex that it’s O.K. and that you agree with the decision 100%. It's not gonna be easy for you but it will put you in a much better position afterwards. So don't make a scene, don't even make it into a big deal, just act normal and tell your ex you agree.

If you're already past this point you'll need to regain some of you power, you'll do this by writing a short email to your ex letting your ex know that after you've spend some time thinking about it, you came to an agreement and you're now fine with the break up. In fact you consider this to be the right call in your situation.

Next you'll need to keep very busy and stay away from your ex till things normalize again. Give it few weeks at least. Don't initiate any contact. Not over the phone or in person, you need to behave like your ex doesn't even exist at this point. You'll accomplish two things with this, first you'll give yourself (and your ex) some time to calm down and you'll let your ex miss you. If you kept in contact your ex would never really think about you or feel something for you cause he or she would constantly feel „safe“ like  you're there waiting for him or her to make the next call.

While this is going on (the no-communication phase), you'll need to work on yourself. Now you will have a lot of extra time and energy on your hands and it will work wonders for your self-esteem and confidence to put it to good use.

I haven't seen a person who couldn't use some more time to focus on improving his or hers life. It may be just a small thing like you may now have time to catch up on your reading or it may be something bigger, like wanting to transform your body and get a new look. Whatever it is make sure it makes you happy and more confident as a person. Don't do something cause you think your ex might like it if (when) you get back together again. Do what makes you a happier person form the inside!

Also you'll need to be honest with yourself about the reasons you'd like to have your ex back, do you really want your ex cause you're in love with him or her or do you have some other thing you need sorted out. It can be revenge to your ex, it can just be a silly ego trip. But don't allow yourself to get back into the relationship for the wrong reasons. I know it's not easy being so honest with yourself so that you can actually differentiate the two but you must. You'll only end up feeling more empty and hurt if you don't work figuring out why you want to get your ex back. How does your life now compare to what it was when the two of you were together?

Now that you're done soul searching and being apart is the moment for you to initiate contact again. Make sure you keep it light and casual. You need to just pick up the phone and tell your ex you want to thank him for something in person. And don't make it sound like a date.

Once you see your ex again flirt, play and teas your ex. This is the way you got him or her in the first place why make your ex remember why he or she fell in love with you from the start.

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